What I figured was that I'd stay after work and just try to type a little and catch up what I could. Maybe that'll work better than going home. Let's see what I can do here real quick....
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There is a really important reason I've not blogged. We have something private going on at home. Something I can not blog about. Something personal. One of 'those things', ya know? One of those family things that you just 'keep in the family'? I can tell you that it involves Justin and that we are dealing with it as best we know how. I wouldn't even blog about it, except that I want to tell you that it troubles my heart and for that I need prayer. We all do. Chris, myself, all the kids.
We have an appointment to see a Psychiatrist Thursday afternoon with Justin to help sort through things. I've asked everyone I know for prayers. I'll ask the professionals for guidance, and we'll just sort through it from there.
It's difficult when I usually sort through all my feelings HERE. In my blog. When something this tumultuous happens - I feel all out of whack and unsure of what to do. I sat at my desk at work and cried on Monday for a good long while.
Ya know, I was thinking that there are just time when things in our lives are going great. We are doing things for God. Our home life is doing well. Then all of a sudden it is like our world is turned upside down. We feel like we have been beaten and wonder, "how are we going to get out of this one?"
I know the answer is always - prayer. Pray and worship God, even in the darkest times. I know it's hard. I just wrote something out for the church in it I talked about this very thing. It's so easy when bad things happen to say to God "Why God? Why me? Why us? Why now? Why did you allow this to happen?" But, God can always turn a bad situation into a good one, if we let him. We just have to have faith and believe.
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Kayte has also gotten into a bad habit of texting me to 'tell me' what she is going to do."KC's. Back at 7."
"Spending the night at Michelles"
"Going to McDonalds"
Then when I talk to her about it.... she says she asked. Or that she told me where she was going. Okay, TELLING me is NOT asking.
Last night when she didn't come home by 7... the normal "Kayte has to be home by" time... Chris asked me where she was. I said I didn't know. When I couldn't find her... I checked my cell phone. Sure enough, there was a text message asking me if she could spend the night at a friends house. Now.... she DID ask. But.......... I was at Church. We had our Church Cantata this weekend. I didn't reply to her!!! She just ASSUMED that my non response was a "Yes"????
Since she never came home.... I assume so.
Today we have to talk about this.
The new rule is.... NO TEXT MESSAGES.
Even my friend Michelle has been over our house before when we've gone through this. Waiting for Kayte to come home for dinner, only to check my cell phone to see that Kayte is having her hair straightened and is going to be 2 hours late. No -- PICK UP THE PHONE. As a matter of fact, I think I blogged about this back then and we talked about this back then. We said then -- PICK UP THE PHONE and CALL. It just doesn't happen.
I know it's easier. Easier to text message. Easier than asking me if they can do something.
But... it's got to happen.
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Update on Kayla. Well... oie - this is a big one as well. I've had a gut feeling about Kayla for the past few weeks. I've had a gut feeling that she's been lying to me.
No real 'reason' -- no signs -- nothing like that. Just a gut feeling.
The other day I went into McDonalds to pick up some burgers for the kids. I NEVER go in - I would usually do drive-thu - but this day I just so happened to go in. I saw the schedule sitting out on the counter, and what do I see? Kayla's name crossed out.
Odd.
So I asked, half-heartedly jokingly.... "Why is Kayla's name crossed out? Doesn't she still work here?"
No, they tell me. She quit today.
Quit? Today? What??????????????
Two managers come up to talk to me when they realize who I am. "The strict Aunt" is what they call me.
Then they tell me lots of other stuff. She's been calling OUT of work a lot. Every single Saturday for starters. She uses LOTS of excuses.... her mom had a heart attack. Someone died. Her mom, my sister (Julie) has CANCER. They just thought it was odd that her mom just happened to have everything - heart attack, cancer, all kinds of horrible things happen on SATURDAYS. Well, that didn't happen. But I didn't say anything to them. I told them that - yes, indeed, Kayla's mom was very sick. I did not confirm nor deny that any of the alleged illnesses were true nor false. Cancer? Every Saturday? What was Kayla doing if she wasn't working every Saturday?
I just knew my gut reaction had been correct.
So, when I got home, we talked about it. Sure enough.... she told us the truth. But only partially the truth. She claimed that - somehow - we always knew where she was. I don't see HOW that could be true when we THOUGHT she was working an 8 hour shift at McDonalds when she was actually at a friends house all day, but then she'd call and say "can I got to the mall after work with Mario?" and we'd say "yes" -- so then she'd go to the mall. By that - she means that we knew she'd be at the mall later with Mario... so we knew where she was. That makes NO SENSE to me. But then again, my logic is that of a 40-year old, not a 17-year old.
Chris got really angry with her, telling her she couldn't work at all - she didn't deserve it.
I sat her down outside to talk to her. I knew there had to be more to it. I just knew there was more. I asked her............. was she really going to night school.
You see.... every Monday and Wednesday she would go to a 'friends house' after school. Then she'd attend "night school" at Gaither High School and come home at about 10:30 or so. This was so that she could graduate next year at 18 instead of the year after at the age of 19.
She told me "no".
I just knew it.
How she thought she was going to pull this off for any length of time I have no idea. But I just knew she wasn't attending.
I am so disappointed in her, I just can't begin to tell you.
She CHOOSES to lie for some reason, and I just can't figure out WHY.
She's 17 years old. If she WANTS to go to the mall with her friends, I'm probably going to be okay with it. Really I am.
So............................................. WHY LIE?
I'm crushed.
I asked her to give me a while before I could trust her again. To let me heal... to just stay at home for a while and BE A GOOD GIRL for a while and let me 'lick my wounds' so to speak. Of course, less than 12 hours later she's pushing me to go to her boyfriend's house again. This time, I let her go. BUT... I talked to her boyfriends mother and told her what happened. I told her that Kayla had lied to me. I told her that I wanted her to call me whenever Kayla came over and gave her my home and cell numbers. This way, Kayla can't lie about going over there and really being somewhere else.
The other thing I did was insisted Kayla TRY to get her job back.
When her managers were there offering me their condolences about my sister having Cancer - they also told me what a loss it was to lose Kayla as an employee. She was a hard worker - if only she didn't call out so much. Plus, one of the reasons she quit was because her ex-boyfriend was there. Well, he had quit just three hours before she did!
Kayla had applied at another McDonalds. A dirty, nasty one - much smaller - inside a Walmart - with only four employees. She wouldn't get a lot of hours. It wouldn't be nice and clean like she likes. It's not close to home. But.... she was going to try to apply.
I told her to call the McDonalds she just quit - talk to her manager - and tell them that she was so sorry for quitting. Then ask if she could PLEASE have her job back. She made a mistake in quitting. Calling out on Saturdays was a mistake, and she won't do it again. What's the worst thing they can say? No? Then go apply at the other one. The best answer is YES! So.... she did just that, and they took her back! On probation, of course. :o)
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I really should run. It's nearly 6 and I have to get home. But I wanted to post pictures of the cruise!
I'll tell ya what.... check out the link below and go see some photos for yourself! Enjoy!
http://www.kodakgallery.com/I.jsp?c=c3nujgxy.3d8bc12u&x=0&y=dayqgx
Please go look at them.... and then post a comment to tell me what you think!
I read all comments. They could really UPLIFT me. And I could use some UPLIFTING today!
God bless!
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